Day 48: The Chatter of Grief Waves
As sad as this feels to admit, being a grief professional doesn’t substitute as “preparation” for massive grief in my own life. When I’ve encountered what feels like the endless cycle of grief waves, I fell right into them with deep frustration and some despair—“when do these soften, at all?” On my easier days, I was able to observe the waves with more wonder and curiosity. How many ups and downs make up a grief journey? How many waves does it take so grief that my has become integrated? How do people do this incredible exhausting cycle of ups and downs amidst such rawness and vulnerability and heartache and despair with far fewer resources than myself?
All I have to offer regarding these grief waves is that 1) there is no one I’ve met who doesn’t have them on a grief journey and 2) speaking the words of my waves out loud or writing these down helped. It did not take away the pain. It just gave it a place. And allowed me, in the moments of more capacity, to sit back and feel a sense of awe that my system could even do this—even had one more wave, one more level, one more cycle of healing.
What do your waves say?
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