Day 64: Hard Grief Truths
So much of my personal and professional work exists in the realm of building tolerance—tolerance for distress, tolerance for sitting with the unknown, with what doesn’t make sense, with what isn’t fair, and with what we cannot control and fix.
On its face, this might sound like a dismal pursuit and job. Yet, it is not.
For I believe we humans are all capable of expanding our tolerance—because we really don’t have much of a choice. To expand our ability to sit with these hard truths is an act of survival, an act of exercising our resilience, and a way forward. And, that is where hope tends to live—in the having a way forward—and not in any one particular outcome.
Our ability to sit with these truths and learn to tolerate them, just a little at a time, is the way forward in grief.
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Welcome to my second, 100-day project. I hope to provide a daily offering on something grief-related. I am a grief therapist and educator working with people in Oregon, Washington, DC, Maryland, and Maine. This feed is in honor of each person who has trusted me with their stories and wisdom during their grief journey. I hope that others may benefit from simple and straightforward talk about a topic that can be difficult.