Day 65: After a series of heavier posts, I offer up an ode to one of the wisest grief companions in my life: our Holland Lop, Snowball.Seriously—he doesn’t speak, he doesn’t offer advice, he wants to be close, he is ridiculously soft, he is consistent and simple in his demands, and his downfalls are minimal (carpet chewing and feet licking).An important part of being able to move through grief is to oscillate-meaning coming up from the existential dread, deep missing, and the pain once in awhile. This is not distraction. This is honoring the natural rhythm of grief.We all have different ways of oscillating out of those depths. Sometimes you can jump start it—but most times, it will come on its own. Petting Snowball (and actually taking those moments to be still in that and watch him enjoy it) is one thing that helps support my natural rhythm of oscillating out of heavy grief times.If you have a pet, let this wise creature serve as an impetus for the oscillation of your grief.
Welcome to my second, 100-day project. I hope to provide a daily offering on something grief-related. I am a grief therapist and educator working with people in Oregon, Washington, DC, Maryland, and Maine. This feed is in honor of each person who has trusted me with their stories and wisdom during their grief journey. I hope that others may benefit from simple and straightforward talk about a topic that can be difficult.