Day 38: Grieving and Living
Many of my clients arrive worried they are either 1) not getting grief right or not grieving enough or 2) not able to engage in life at all because of how they are grieving.
The reality I have come to observe in grief is that if you get out of bed in the morning, you are living. AND, you are also grieving. Unfortunately, the two cannot be separated from one another.
The maddening truth about grief is that it cannot be contained to a neat and tidy timeframe, such as “Ok, I’ll grieve for 6 months and then I’ll start living.” Since grief is an expression of our love, it is entangled with our relationship to our person and therefore, will not in and of itself end. However, how grief shows up in our life and how much time and capacity it takes WILL CHANGE (even if that feels impossible at the beginning).
Please give yourself some grace. Your “living” won’t look like it used to, early on in grief. And your “grieving” will ebb and flow. And, the two will also be happening at the same time.
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