In Grief, Long-Term Thinking Doesn't Make Sense
Day 87: In Grief, Long-Term Thinking Doesn’t Make Sense Around the second month of the pandemic, I began to have a new relationship ...
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We Want our Suffering to Mean Something
Day 86: We want our suffering to mean something… There is a term in the grief world called “meaning making.” It used to bug me because...
We Were Born Knowing How to Grieve
Day 85: We were Born Knowing How to Grieve I would say that 75% of my work is being with people as they unlearn the gamut of...
Acute Grief--A Treacherous Landscape
Day 84: Acute Grief—A Treacherous Landscape Acute grief is the term that refers to the initial phase of bereavement. Acute grief is the...
What does "Progress" Mean in Grief?
Day 83: What Does “Progress” Mean in Grief? A couple days ago I mentioned the words that don’t seem right when it comes to grief. These...
Holidays can be Hard (Halloween, 2021)
Day 82: Holidays can be Hard Halloween kicks off what most of my clients find to be a nightmarish feeling of “how am I going to get...
We don’t grieve to “get better.” We grieve to feel differently.
Day 81: We don’t grieve to “get better.” We grieve to feel differently. What does “getting better” even mean in grief? What does...
Showing Up Can Be Scary
Day 80: Showing Up Can Be Scary Clients share the experience of their induction into the club of grievers they never wanted to be a...
“Just-Show-Up” Ideas
Day 79: “Just-Show-Up” Ideas In my day 49 post, “JUST SHOW UP,” I tried to offer a framework for how to THINK about how to show up. I...
The Yearning for One Last Moment
Day 78: The Yearning for One Last Moment I’m reading Katherine May’s book, Wintering, and enjoying her words which encourage the sitting...
Grief & Depression
Day 77: Grief & Depression Many years ago, I asked an acquaintance of mine who was open about living with major depression, and had...
Types of Pain in Grief
Day 76: Types of Pain in Grief This need not be an exhaustive list yet these are the ones I hear about the most. How does your grief pain...
Where and How does your Grief Show Up?
Day 75: Where and how does your grief show up? One potential maddening (or at least perplexing) question I ask folks is where does...
The Fear of the Pain not Feeling as Painful
Day 74: The Fear of the Pain Not Feeling as Painful Many times, I hear about a fear that most people aren’t speaking about out loud....
The Myopic Nature of Grief
Day 73: The Myopic Nature of Grief My first experience of grief was at age 4, after the death of my beloved cat, Elliot. Elliot went...
Tutorial on Tears
Day 72: Tears There are three different types of tears: emotional; reflex; and basal. Thus far, humans are the only known animal (with...
A Grief-Shattered Heart
Day 71: Anatomy of Grief-Shattered Heart In this work, I continue to be floored by how we can be at once shattered and whole, raw and...
"Acceptance" is a Tricky Word in Grief
Day 70: “Acceptance” in Grief Out in the world, the word “acceptance” can imply agreement, or consent, or even acknowledgement that...
We Miss in the Everyday Moments
Day 69: We miss people in the everyday moments We miss people in the everyday life moments, in the ordinary, not in the extraordinary. We...
A New-ish Grief Model
Day 68: The Grief Stages and Phases Abridged Model Most people have heard of the 5 stages of Grief (Elisabeth Kubler-Ross), some have...
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