Day 88: November in Grief I turned around this morning after making breakfast at a ridiculous hour due to daylight savings to find my...

Day 87: In Grief, Long-Term Thinking Doesn’t Make Sense Around the second month of the pandemic, I began to have a new relationship ...

Day 86: We want our suffering to mean something… There is a term in the grief world called “meaning making.” It used to bug me because...

Day 85: We were Born Knowing How to Grieve I would say that 75% of my work is being with people as they unlearn the gamut of...

Day 84: Acute Grief—A Treacherous Landscape Acute grief is the term that refers to the initial phase of bereavement. Acute grief is the...

Day 83: What Does “Progress” Mean in Grief? A couple days ago I mentioned the words that don’t seem right when it comes to grief. These...

Day 82: Holidays can be Hard Halloween kicks off what most of my clients find to be a nightmarish feeling of “how am I going to get...

Day 81: We don’t grieve to “get better.” We grieve to feel differently. What does “getting better” even mean in grief? What does...

Day 80: Showing Up Can Be Scary Clients share the experience of their induction into the club of grievers they never wanted to be a...

Day 79: “Just-Show-Up” Ideas In my day 49 post, “JUST SHOW UP,” I tried to offer a framework for how to THINK about how to show up. I...

Day 78: The Yearning for One Last Moment I’m reading Katherine May’s book, Wintering, and enjoying her words which encourage the sitting...

Day 77: Grief & Depression Many years ago, I asked an acquaintance of mine who was open about living with major depression, and had...

Day 76: Types of Pain in Grief This need not be an exhaustive list yet these are the ones I hear about the most. How does your grief pain...

Day 75: Where and how does your grief show up? One potential maddening (or at least perplexing) question I ask folks is where does...

Day 74: The Fear of the Pain Not Feeling as Painful Many times, I hear about a fear that most people aren’t speaking about out loud....

Day 73: The Myopic Nature of Grief My first experience of grief was at age 4, after the death of my beloved cat, Elliot. Elliot went...

Day 72: Tears There are three different types of tears: emotional; reflex; and basal. Thus far, humans are the only known animal (with...

Day 71: Anatomy of Grief-Shattered Heart In this work, I continue to be floored by how we can be at once shattered and whole, raw and...

Day 70: “Acceptance” in Grief Out in the world, the word “acceptance” can imply agreement, or consent, or even acknowledgement that...

Day 69: We miss people in the everyday moments We miss people in the everyday life moments, in the ordinary, not in the extraordinary. We...