Day 22: Sometimes Grief Needs Quiet
Grief often needs extra quiet, space, time alone, and time away. Yet giving grief this early on is almost impossible.
Offering grief space and quiet and time alone can be scary. Yet, when this is provided to grief, I often notice there is great relief. The shoulders go down, the breath returns, the mind races a little less, the sleep improves.
It’s ok if you’re at the place where it feels impossible to give this to your grief. And it’s ok if you’re right in that quiet zone, able to tolerate sitting with the immensity of your pain for a few moments at a time. There will be oscillation between the two. And that back and forth is just how it is designed—because grief also actually needs (and will allow for) laughter and lightness and hope, even if that sounds impossible to you right now as well.
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Welcome to my second, 100-day project. I hope to provide a daily offering on something grief-related. I am a grief therapist and educator working with people in Oregon, Washington, DC, Maryland, and Maine. This feed is in honor of each person who has trusted me with their stories and wisdom during their grief journey. I hope that others may benefit from simple and straightforward talk about a topic that can be difficult.
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