Day 26: We Don’t Get Over Grief
While this may sound terrifying and pessimistic, the adage that we don’t get over grief is a truth I have learned and observed in my work. We don’t just get over what we have loved, and we are not supposed to. We don’t just get over what we have envisioned for ourselves, and we are not supposed to.
We DO learn how to live with our grief. Our grief is not separate from us. It is part of our biological attachment bonds—to people, to our hopes, to our abilities, that will inevitably shift and change over time due to life circumstances.
What I have observed is that while we don’t get over our grief, our relationship to our grief evolves and changes. What we experience as acute pain at the beginning of a grief journey will shift and change, as long as we feel seen and witnessed in it and give ourselves a chance to experience the pain, as scary as that might be.
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Welcome to my #100dayproject. I am providing a daily offering on #grief, in honor of each person who has trusted me with their story and wisdom during their #griefjourney. I hope that others may benefit from simple and straightforward talk about a topic that can be difficult. Thanks for following and/or sharing.