Day 63: Rituals: A Way to Hold On
Sometimes we just need something to hold on to, to get to the next day, the next hour, the next minute. We need this even more when we are in deep grief and our world makes no sense.
Cue, rituals. Yes. Rituals are often thought of as putting carrots out for Rudolph, or the perfect gravy for Thanksgiving, or a spiritual or religious practice, or New Year resolutions, or funerals, or birth announcements, or holiday cards.
Yet, rituals are much more. Rituals can be quiet, daily sources of grounding--anchoring us to what we care about (or are trying to remember that we do). They can provide just a moment of presence, or even distraction (I like to call it oscillation). They can be a simple reminder that yes, we are alive in this moment, even if it’s not how we would have chosen things to be or go.
Rituals in deep grief can be brushing your teeth, making your coffee just the right way, surrounding yourself with pillows before bed, looking up at the sky once a day, singing along to Wilson Phillips ‘Hold On,’ or even writing down some thoughts.
What are your rituals? Which can you add in?
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