Day 41: Dosing Grief
The theme of oscillation in grief is on the front of my mind lately. Another word for oscillation in grief is “dosing.” What sets grief apart from some other struggles is that our system already knows how to do it, and in fact, begs us to engage with the difficult feelings and then take breaks from them.
Early on in grief, this rhythm of dosing can be massively confusing—“how could I ever feel anything other than despair and dread and terribleness?” However, I believe that if we were actually able to feel the fullness of grief’s deluge early on, we might not survive it as it is that powerful. And that is exactly why grief is meant to be dosed and when allowed to move through us, will feel more like waves instead of a flatline without any shifts.
The dosing of grief is what allows it to live within us, and not run our lives. The dosing of grief is what allows it to morph into something that is a little more tolerable. The dosing of grief is also the path that allows the griever to claim their grief, and even protect it, as the form of love and connection that it truly is.
How are you allowing your grief to be dosed lately? How do you give yourself grace to feel something other than terrible, even for a moment? How do you remind yourself that dosing in grief is not a mechanism of forgetting or not loving enough, but actually a healing path towards remaining connected to your person?
Welcome to my #100dayproject. I am providing a daily offering on #grief, in honor of each person who has trusted me with their story and wisdom during their #griefjourney. I hope that others may benefit from simple and straightforward talk about a topic that can be difficult. Thanks for following and/or sharing.