Day 64: Grief is a Way Forward
When I meet with folks, I inform them that my primary jobs are 1) to make sure that I assist them in clearing the pathway for their grief so it can exist and move and 2) to assure them that I nor others get in the way of their journey.
And sometimes, people ask—“when these goals are accomplished, then what is left?”
I think most of us hope for answers such as “the grief is over,” or “happiness” or “a return to normal life.”
However, the honest answer is that what is left is PURE grief. This is the missing. The yearning. The wishing it wasn’t so. This is the sitting with the hardest life truths--that life isn’t fair, that one cannot change certain events, ever, that some things don’t ever make sense, and that sometimes, there is no one who can fix what happened.
Pure grief is not complicated, yet is it is painful. Searing. Pure grief is a form of our love for the person we lost. It is also a form of unfulfilled hope for what could have been, for what we thought the world was, for what we dreamed of.
Sitting in pure grief is the ultimate way forward. It is not comfortable. It can be horrid. And yet it is our biological and psychological immune system’s way to shift and change our experience. It is the number one way how grief will change and evolve.
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Welcome to my #100dayproject. I am providing a daily offering on #grief, in honor of each person who has trusted me with their story and wisdom during their #griefjourney. I hope that others may benefit from simple and straightforward talk about a topic that can be difficult. Thanks for following and/or sharing.