Day 60: Truth: Anger is Part of Grief
Anger shows up as a wise adaptation to loss. It is a fierce protector. It is active when all else feels so passive. It pulses in the body and reminds us we are living. It allows us to speak when words are not otherwise available.
Anger likes to protect what is most raw. And anger knows there is love or connection or an unfulfilled hope or vision that is no longer.
Anger is a sign that we have loved. And hoped. And dreamed. It is a sign we are human.
Anger is not something to fix in grief. It is something to turn towards, and to offer some space to exist. Anger wants its role to be honored and for us to trust that when it doesn’t have to be as protective or big, it will subside. And that might take time. Because to lose a person or a dream or a way of life is shattering. And who wouldn’t have anger about having to exist in a brand new reality that is unexpected and never what you would sign up for?
Anger is part of a grief process. Please invite it to exist because in turning towards it, it won’t get bigger. It will feel heard. And will likely begin to soften.
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